What is the matter with people today? Is no one teaching their kids things like common courtesy or manners? Have adults just phased out the 'polite' part of their brain? I don't know about in other countries, but here in the US, people's manners are becoming downright deplorable.
How hard is it to utter the words "please" and "thank you"? It takes about 2 nano seconds of your life. You won't die if you say these words. USE THEM! Say them to your family. Say them to the cashier or store clerk helping you (yes, I know they're paid to help you, but it wouldn't kill you to be kind). Say them to the person who holds a door for you. Don't be a dick! Nothing pisses me off more than when I hold open a door for someone right behind me and they just walk on through--as if I was suppose to do that. I always tell them "You're welcome" as the bluster on by. Responses vary from an embarrassed glance to a downright glare. Guess it sucks to be called on your poor manners.
And people, I know we're all in a hurry these days. We've got things to do, places to go, TV shows to watch--you know, all that important stuff. But for the love of Christ, hold the door for the person behind you. Yeah, it sucks when there's a family for 12, but it only takes a couple seconds, and nine times out of ten, one of said family members takes over the door for you. Don't be an ass and slam doors in peoples faces. If they say "Thanks", tell them "You're welcome" or "No problem".
To you cellphone users--shut the fuck up in public places! You don't need to friggen shout out your date details or dinner menu to everyone at the gym, in the store, standing in the lobby, or where ever the hell you might be. Talk quietly. Or--GO.OUTSIDE. Why are there people like this? The day and age when cellphones were unique and having one was 'cool' are over. Now no one thinks having a cellphone is cool and people like you are annoying as hell.
And to the people who feel the need to argue with clerks over the dumbest shit. Let it go. You see that long line of other customers behind you. No, it's not your imagination. They really do exist. You aren't the only patron to 'such and such' establishment. Those looks of hate on our faces aren't meant for the poor clerk you're harrassing because their store doesn't take such and such credit card/out of state checks/etc. We are pissed AT YOU. Why? Because you're a dumbass. Because you're selfish. Because we have to wait 15 minutes or more for a transaction that should only take 2. Don't have your ducks in a row? DON'T GET IN LINE!
I could go on and on and on with this topic, but really, I'm exhausted just thinking about. I might be brash and offensive sometimes, but I'm always worried about other people around me. Good manners are important. I always say please, thank you, your welcome. I always hold the door for the person behind me. If I cause a hold up somewhere, I apologize to those behind me, and I don't go out of my way to cause trouble (if you can believe that *ha ha*). People in this day and age are selfish. It's sad. It's disgusting. Though manners are simple, they have profound impacts on people. They remind us that being nice feels good and that one good deed is often returned in spades by others. Ever see the movie "Pay it Forward"? If not, go watch it--right now. The message is loud and clear.
Posted by Zoso at November 30, 2005 01:03 PMI couldn't agree more. My parents have raised me (and are still raising me) to repect people and have manners. My sister never seems to get this and when people smile or wave at her, she doesn't feel the need to be polite and smile/wave back. I'm usually the one to say thank you or hold open doors for people. Unless I'm extremely pissed off, like I was at the Westfield Shopping Center Mall in Toledo.
People are just plain RUDE. They have to stay up your butt and follow way too close if your going "too slow" and then switch lanes. This happened and the people I was with switched ahead of them and I was so angry at this point (from other things) that I just gave them the worst glare I could muster in my current mood and speed walked by them. I'm sorry if that's rude, but if you have a problem don't get on MY ass..
We were at the mall for a dress for my dance and this mother and two girls were totally tearing through the dresses, spinning the rack around, talking obnoxiously loud and giving me and my mom strange looks. I would've appreciated in if they would've just come out and have said what they had on their minds.
Sorry about that. I can really relate with you on the cell phone thing. At our mall especially you get what you would call "preps" that whip out their cell phones talk obnoxiously loud about some great thing that happened to them or some drama in their life. My gosh, the US is going berserk.
Posted by: Vampire_Fire at November 30, 2005 02:45 PMI think that everyone has met rude people and has been rude at one time or another. But it doesn't give you an excuse to constantly be that way. If I'm not driving fast enough for you, please, pass me. Don't ride my ass, or I'll slow down because then, if something arises, I have to stop for the both of us.
Holding the door open doesn't take very long, and if your having a bad day, it just makes it a little better to get the following "thank you." Even if they forget their manners you still walk away knowing that you did a good deed. (No matter how small)
Yeah, we all have our moments. I know I do! I feel really guilty later though, after I think about it. I totally agree with you last sentance too Mia-- even if the person rudely walks on by, at least you've done your part. So true. So true.
Posted by: Zoso at December 1, 2005 03:36 PM